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Attending Chinese traditional wedding banquet....Appropriate gown?

It's for my best friend's wedding in September. It will be a big extravagant traditional Chinese wedding and the banquet will be in a high-class setting after 6:30 p.m. I'm ordering my dresses all "custom-made." I'm not one of her bridesmaids cuz I'm already married with kids, but, as her best friend, the elders asked me to do the honorable "hair-combing-blessing" ceremony the night before the wedding (we don't do Bachelorette parties in Chinese customs). Here are the Chinese Qi Pao (or Cheongsam) I have narrowed down to: http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_495_Embroidery_Dancing_Phoenix_Silk_Cheongsam_cat_2.html Actually Navy/Fuschia, not Dark Red as it looks in pic: http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_606_Mystical_Velvet_Dress_cat_2.html http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_452_Junoesque_Orchid_Embroidery_Cheongsam_cat_2.html http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_337_Feminine_Floral_Embroidery_Cheongsam_cat_2.html Which one is too gawdy? I want it to be as traditional as possible but I'm aiming for simple elegance.

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1. I would steer clear of the first one. Phoenix/Dragon are usually representative of the Bride and Groom. The second one is a little overdone for me - the last 2 are simple and beautiful - either would be appropriate. You should feel very honoured that you get to be involved in these wonderful ceremonies!! Congratulations!
2. The third one is prettiest to me without being gawdy, but I'm not sure which is most appropriate.
3. I think the third one is nice, classy, simple and elegant and at the same tiem Ggdd draw too much attentionf rom the bride
4. I think the second one or the fourth one is beautiful and suitable for a wedding...it exudes quiet elegance. Not to mention you might be able to wear it again for another formal occasion. I find #1 and #3 a little loud and distracting....especially if the bride will have the traditional red cheongsam, you don't want to steal her thunder.
5. I think they are lovely dresses, however if you are asking which ones are too gawdy I would suggest the 2nd and 3rd (due to the detail in the 2nd and the colour of the 3rd). I really like 1 and 4, however if it was up to me I would chose 4 because I think the flower design is just so feminine and elegant.
6. I'd say definitely go for #2. Don't wear anything with a dragon (symbolizes the groom) or phoenix (symbolizes the bride) as that may be seen as "competing" if this is a very traditional affair. Also, I'd stay away from the bright green dress and aqua dress. Choose conservative colors. I think it's great that you're wearing a Qi Pao!
7. Look for something red (but not too red, because that's the bride's color) because red has a lot of significance with luck. I like the red and black one.