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Wedding etiquettes?

It's for my best friend's wedding in September. It will be a big extravagant traditional Chinese wedding and the banquet will be in a high-class setting after 6:30 p.m. I'm ordering my dresses all "custom-made." I'm not one of her bridesmaids cuz I'm already married with kids, but, as her best friend, the elders asked me to do the honorable "hair-combing-blessing" ceremony the night before the wedding (we don't do Bachelorette parties in Chinese customs). Here are the Chinese Qi Pao (or Cheongsam) I have narrowed down to: http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_495_Embroidery_Dancing_Phoenix_Silk_Cheongsam_cat_2.html It's not beaded, they're just white dots and it's Navy with Fuschia, not Dark Red as the pic looks: http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_606_Mystical_Velvet_Dress_cat_2.html http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_452_Junoesque_Orchid_Embroidery_Cheongsam_cat_2.html http://www.eaststore.com/catalog/product_337_Feminine_Floral_Embroidery_Cheongsam_cat_2.html Which one is the most elegant without upstaging the bride? Fuschia is the "lucky" color for general celebrations (elders' birthday banquets, Chinese New Year, newborn's 1st-month banquets, and so on), but does it look too gawdy? Red, gold and yellow (resembles gold) are the "bridal colors," which are all violations against the elders policy. The elders also frown upon anything shorter than mid-calf, so that's out of the question. Fuschia, non-pale-pinks, red-purple (not royal purple), and red are the general "lucky" colors. I like the Burn-Out Velvet idea, but I dislike bright gawdy pinks.

Public Comments

1. I like the blue one(the last one). The Fuschia one is so extravagant you would run the risk of upstaging the bride. I think the blue one is simple yet elegant.
2. The blue one is best in my opinion. The green is too bright The purple is my second choice but the dragon is a little too much, The dark one looks a little matronly for a young woman.
3. I'd say blue one would be your best choice. It's a good color and it looks feminine and elegant. The purple one looks nice too, but I think the dragons take away the feminineness of the dress.