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My dad thought I wanted a crochet hook needle for an abortion?

My dad is going to the store and a few days ago I told him I needed a crochet hook needle. He didn't question it until he accidentally forgot it and then I told him to find one today. He wakes me up rather early and strictly asks me why I needed this crochet hook needle. At first I didn't even think I needed to tell him, because it's just a crochet hook needle, it's not a big deal. I told him I needed it for dreading my hair, and dreading my friends hair. He said "Are you sure that you don't need to seek medical help? Kids back in the 40's used to use clothes hangers to abort babies. You're not pregnant, are you?" I got really upset that he assumed this and explained to him why I needed the crochet needle. But he still doesn't believe me?

Public Comments

1. that is fucked up. I feel really sorry for you! say to him mate I can do a pregnancy test for you. keep saying that's what you need it for to dread your hair!! if your mum lives with you, get her involved and on your side. good luck x
2. Makes me wonder who told him that a crochet hook is used in such a scary procedure? Since I don't know about the relationship you have with your dad I'm not sure if you can approach him in a calm manner to ask him what brought him to that assumption. Assure him that you understand his concern for you and then let him know that his approach got you upset because it made you feel that he doesn't trust you or that he has a bad opinion of you and the choices you would make in the event that you were pregnant.....all my best.
3. Wow that's crazy. I would just explain to him that you know that IF you were pregnant you would definately go to a medical centre, and that you realise it would be incredibly dangerous to try doing something like that at home, I mean people die from trying that. I don't know why he wouldn't believe you, but if he still doesn't, maybe your friend could get the needle, if it is going to be such a big deal.
4. Lord have mercy.....
5. Tell him that you are hurt that he does not trust you to come to him.Stick to your story and continue to explain how hurt you are.
6. One of the worst fears for a father of a daughter is her pregnant too soon and worse than that is the fear of her dying or getting severely injured.. which can result in a home abortion. We rather protect our daughters. He has the best of intentions and he means well. He cares a lot about you. Yes, it was a bit overboard and out of line to go that far.. but it is a very real and serious fear. He just needs a little reassurance. You can show you understand he ideals when it comes to dating, sex and pregnancy. You can have him witness the dreads. You can go as far as take a pregnancy test if you really want to, but shouldn't be necessary. The idea is to build trust.