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My dad thought I wanted a crochet hook needle for an abortion? (Again)?

Today I told him to buy me a crochet hook needle, but at the time I didn't feel the reason for telling him I needed it was necessary. Today he woke me up very early and had me sit down and talk to him about my sex life. I told him I was sexually active but I was using protection. He asked why I needed a crochet hook needle and I told him it was because I was dreading my hair and it was important necessity to achieve them. He said "I find that hard to believe. I know girls who used to use clothes hangers to abort babies and they would die." I was really offended and hurt that he said this because I feel like he doesn't trust me and that he thinks I would make stupid decisions like this. He also disregarded the fact that my second item on the list to get at the store was tampons. Ugh. What do I tell him?

Public Comments

1. Say alright ill wait 5 months to die my hair and ull see, or you might be the one surprised.
2. he didnt disregard. he put the two together. a crochet hook and something that will soak up blood from your vagina. jesus you probably scared him. either that or broke his heart. there should be other things you can use for your hair that are designed just for that. think about your actions and words. out of context they can hurt those around you even if you didnt intend it.
3. O' my. Ok, that is a far stretch. I would initiate the conversation (it will show you are mature) and discuss the contraceptive method you are using (shows your responsible). Also, if you feel comfortable tell him you are not pregnant because you are having your period. Bottom line...he is your dad and most dads do not take hearing about their little girls and their sex life lightly. He is fearful of the obvious (std's, pregnancy, and maybe your emotional state). Other than declaring with words, proving your responsible with actions will be more effective. But like I said, he is your dad and his job is to worry. Your job is to *try* to calm his fears by being responsible and understanding. Good luck to you ;)
4. I like the way you say 'I TOLD him to buy me......' Is he your servant or something? Do you think it's right to order your dad around, give him a shopping list and ask a man to buy your tampons for you? You sound like a spoilt little brat to me and you also sound like you know JUST how to wind your dad up. You didn't feel giving him a reason for what you wanted the crochet hook for was NECESSARY? Why was that? Did it make you feel superior or was it perhaps to make him jump to the conclusion he did? Pity he didn't give you a slap. Maybe more of those in your childhood would have turned you into a slightly humbler person with a bit more respect for him. In the circumstances I'm very glad he sat you down and enquired about your sex life. I hope it was really embarrassing for you because you got just what you deserved. You asked for it. He sounds a very good dad to me and I think you are a cruel and spoilt little girl for putting him through such anxiety just to get attention. Don't think that you have come over as someone really hard done by because it didn't work. You sound what you are - a self centred and rather selfish little girl. Grow up.
5. Before abortion was made safe and legal for every women with Roe vs. Wade women did use clothes hangers to abort. And they died from infection or bleeding if tore their internals. It is and was a horrible death. Women with money and the right connections got one of the gyn procedures that caused the lining to shed. In his mind due to his past experiences crochet hook needles were used to cause abortions not dollies or blankets, or dreading hair. It wasn't because he doesn't trust you, it is because he doesn't want you to die like the girls who knew. He loves you so much and approached you and asked about your sex life due to a nagging fear you would die like the girls he knew. I will not get into a debate about abortion with you. But those kind of deaths is why some many people who are pro-choice fight so hard to keep abortion accessible to all who chose to end a pregnancy. Tell him if you ever feel you need to end a pregnancy you will seek the best medical help available. I would tell him that if you ever had an unwanted pregnancy you would seek medical help from a gyn.
6. do your own shopping. tell him that you would never abort a baby that way. peace.